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who is about relationships, peer pressure, sexuality and
includes making choices or that big decision.
RELATIONSHIPS
When and what is a relationship? We cant give a specific
answer to that question. We all experience different
relationships through the people we meet in our lives.
With these relationships come different feelings, we
start to develop attitudes and values around what we
think are good or bad relationships and begin to develop
a feeling of closeness to some people more than others.
There are no golden rules about how we should feel towards
the people in our lives, but you need to recognize these
feelings because they play an important part on influencing
the decisions we make in these relationships.
Some relationships will develop easier than others.
You can feel pressured to be in a relationship, and
when in one, there come emotions, responsibilities and
sometimes ..........sex! You may find it
hard to make sense of all the issues that come along,
love, sexual desire, trust, risk, protection, needs
of friends. Going out with another person who we are
attracted to can be really enjoyable. It is worth taking
time, enjoying each stage of the relationship and getting
to know the other person well. If we do this we are
less likely to make choices that we later regret.
How we act in our friendship groups is different from
our behavior in our family group. Sometimes pressure
from other people or groups cause us to behave in ways
that are not appropriate or in ways we may feel uncomfortable.
It can be difficult to resist these pressures, but knowing
what we feel is right and wrong, and what behaviour
we feel comfortable with, can help us to adapt to different
situations and to resist pressure from other people.
If you need advice or support please talk to a friend
or adult you trust like a parent, carer, family member,
your school nurse or connexions adviser etc. They will
be able to help you talk things through and advice or
support given will help towards making the right decision.
Understanding ourselves helps us to understand our relationships.
Everyone is unique and special.
For more info www.mindbodysoul.gov.uk/sexual/relationships.html
We all suffer from peer pressure some times in our
lives. From friends' or\and schoolmates, young
people you know and usually it's around how to
act, behave, think and look a certain way.
Worried or suffering from peer pressure please talk
to someone. Could be parents, older brother or sister,
youth worker or some different friends. It will make
you feel better if you can find someone to talk to.
You don't have to do anything you don't
want too. Its your choice what clothes to wear, if you
choose to drink alcohol, choose to have sex, choose
to take drugs and you should be comfortable with the
way you feel around other people.
This can be confusing, particularly through adolescence
(growing up). What does it involve? Feelings, emotions,
physical changes and making sense of conflicting messages
from society, family and friends.
You need to explore the influences and pressures around
you to help you understand sexuality, at the way in
which it is expressed, attitudes and values around sexuality
can help young people make up their minds, build their
confidence and overcome embarrassment and fears.
The media idealize images of sexual encounters portrayed
daily, which can put pressure on young people. Exploring
these can help to explode myths and help you gain confidence
and gain negotiating skill to decide about the sex they
want or don't want.
We all have to make choices and decisions about different
things, some are harder to make than others. What to
wear, where to go and who to go with, what I am going
to do. When making choices or that big decision you
need to feel confident and comfortable about your choice
and that you are not pressurised into anything. If you
do not want to do something, or think something is wrong
then try and resist doing it. Talk to someone you trust,
an adult or a friend.
When you experience strong feelings of attraction you
can make decisions that you later regret, especially
those in relation to sex. Try to understand your feelings
to help you plan them important decisions. Feelings
can change quickly and feelings influence the decisions
we make. Loving someone and being in love can be two
different feelings.
How do you know when you are ready? If you don't
feel ready then your probably not. What does my heart
say? What does my head say? We all experience the confusion
of head and heart, usually deep down we know what decision
we want to make, but it is not always easy to see at
the time, especially if pressure is on us.
If you are being hurt or abused by an adult or someone
your own age telling somebody you trust can help the
situation get sorted. It isn't your fault, and
you need to ask somebody to help you. Telling someone
is brave and it will be difficult, but will be worth
it in the end.
